The Father I Carry: John Nick Damigos

By Marcella John Damigos Molnar

BEGINNINGS — PSARA

The house where his story began

My father was born on the island of Psara, a place shaped by wind, sea, and the quiet resilience of its people. His childhood home still stands there, whitewashed and weathered, holding the memory of a boy who would one day cross an ocean with nothing but courage, promise, and the weight of his family’s hopes on his shoulders.

He carried Psara with him all his life — in his pride, in his discipline, and in the way he loved his family with a devotion that felt both ancient and unshakeable.

Passport Photo

AMERICAN IDENTITY

In time, he headed west and reunited with his brother Antonios (Tony) and his family in California. It was there, in San Pedro, that he met my mother, Stella Costuros. He worked wherever he was needed — as a fisherman, a cook, and eventually as a merchant marine, the career that would define most of his adult life.

John and Stella — Married 1942, Los Angeles, California

On December 24, 1948, he became a naturalized American citizen, the day his name was legally changed to John Nick Damigos — a name he carried with pride for the rest of his life. That moment marked not just a legal transition, but a personal one: the merging of homeland and new land, of Psara and America, of who he had been and who he was becoming.

Naturalization Photo

                 

                                                                                             

 FATHERHOOD & HOME LIFE

When he came home from the sea, my father stepped into the house with a quiet authority rooted not in control, but in care. He shopped for groceries because we had no car, but also because it gave him the chance to fill the house with the foods he preferred — ingredients he trusted, meals he knew how to prepare. He hauled the cart home and returned it without complaint, taking quiet pride in restoring the kitchen to his own standards. Mom was a good cook, but Dad’s cooking surpassed even hers.

Early years with Mary, Irene, and Nicki — San Pedro, California

When he came home off the ship, he often stood in the middle of the living room and emptied his pockets — candy bars, packets of gum, coins, even paper money spilling onto the floor. We would dive for the treasures like children at a broken piñata, and he would throw his head back and laugh. It was his way of turning an ordinary homecoming into a celebration.

Later years with Marcella and Angie — Long Beach, California

These were the rhythms of our home — simple, steady, and full of the kind of love that doesn’t need to be spoken to be understood.

LEGACY

Saint Sophia Cathedral, Los Angeles, CA — where he stood with pride at Mary's wedding

My father’s life stretched far beyond the miles he traveled or the work he did. What he gave us was not measured in possessions or status, but in presence, devotion, and the quiet dignity that marked every chapter of his journey. He left Psara with a promise on his shoulders, built a life in a country that was not yet his own, and carried his family with a steadiness that never wavered.

I remember him standing in St. Sophia Cathedral at my sister Mary’s wedding — proud and dignified, yet quietly wounded that she had paid for the celebration herself. It wasn’t the marriage to a non‑Greek that troubled him. It was the knowledge that she had spent money that everyone knew her father didn’t have. His pride was never about appearances. It was about providing. That was the measure of a man in his eyes, and he carried that truth with a depth that never left him.

His tenderness revealed — meeting his first grandchild

I see him again two years later, kneeling beside a stroller, admiring his first grandchild — the only one he lived to meet. The strength in him softened completely in that moment, his pride and tenderness woven together in the way he leaned toward the young boy.

The man whose presence still steadies me

And though his years were too few, he lives on in us — in our hands, our instincts, our ways of loving, and in the quiet devotion we still carry for his homeland. His legacy continues through his posterity, and his presence remains beside us and within us, as steady as the pride in his eyes.

His beloved daughters — the legacy he carried in his heart: Marcella, Angeline, Nicoletta, Irene, and Mary.

I carry him with me still, in the quiet places of my life where his presence has never left, and in the parts of my sons where I see him living on.